比尔盖茨发明的是什么 比尔·盖茨透露自己的育儿方针 爱和逻辑

比尔·盖茨透露自己的育儿方针 爱和逻辑  

Bill Gates doesn't pretend he lives in an egalitarian household. When it es to parenting his three children
the billionaire Microsoft mogul readily admits his wife Melinda has done more than her share of the work raising the kids.
"My wife does 80%
" Gates told a crowd of Harvard students last Thursday. Gates spent o years there taking math and puter science courses as a pre-law student
but never finished up his degree (though he was later gifted an honorary diploma from the Ivy League university).
"My eldest graduates from Stanford in June
so I'm optimistic she won't fall into my footsteps
" Gates joked.
盖茨开玩笑说：“今年六月，我的大女儿就从斯坦福大学毕业了。所以我可以乐观地说，她不会步我的后尘。”
Gates said he and his wife have been quite deliberate about the model they've used to raise their three children
who are now 15
18
and 22 years old.
He says the couple followed a 1970s "love and Logic" parenting model. It's a formula that was created by a group of three men — a mix of psychologists
psychiatrists and former school administrators. The core idea of their philosophy is centered on the idea that exerting emotional control
essentially minimizing emotional reactions like shouting or reprimanding kids.
"One of the greatest benefits of applying Love and Logic is that it helps us learn how to keep a tighter leash on our emotions and on our tongues
" co-founder Charles Fay wrote in a blog post about his model.
Gates admits he and his wife haven't been perfect at carrying out the approach.
"Can you get rid of the emotion? You can't totally do it
" he said.
Aside from reining in hot-blooded parent tempers
the love and logic model also stresses the importance of not leaning into rewards for kids
but instead demonstrating unconditional love and admiring kids for who they are
not what they do (or don't) achieve
like a poor test score or a bad grade.
"Many highly successful people struggled with grades as children
" Fay wrote on his site. "What's most important is that our children develop good character
curiosity
and problem-solving skills."
The model is a bit like the Socratic method
in that it pushes parents to focus on asking questions of their kids and getting them to think about how to solve their own problems
instead of feeding them answers.
Gates says the "Love and Logic" method is a far cry from the way he grew up
but he knew he wanted to do things differently with his own kids.
It wasn't the only way he set boundaries for his children while they were growing up. None of his kids owned a cell phone until they were 14 years old. The children also attended Catholic church regularly with their parents. And they will each get about $10 million of their parents fortune as inheritance
a mere fraction of the mogul's roughly $90 billion worth.
"We want to strike a balance where they have the freedom to do anything
but not a lot of money showered on them so they could go out and do nothing
" Gates once told TED.