努力做最好的自己说说 10步做最好的自己

10步做最好的自己  

n to accept who you are. It's one of the hardest things to follow through on
but it's definitely most rewarding. It's so easy to look in the mirror and point out most of your insecurities. But
instead of counting all the things you wish you could be
try counting all the things that you are thankful for that bring out your natural beauty. Understand everyone has beauty
whether it be their eyes
their plumped lips
or their rosy cheeks. Make a list of all of these things
and hang it up somewhere by a mirror
and before you leave
look in the mirror and tell yourself you look good. Remember that it's your own opinion that really counts.
学习接受自己。这是一个艰难的过程，却是必须的过程。你可以站着穿衣镜前细数自己所有的不足，你也可以试着找出自己的长处。要明白，每个人都是美的，有的是眼睛，有的是嘴唇，有的是面颊，离开家门的时候，站在镜子面前告诉自己，你是最美的。事实上，你自己的想法最重要。
ize your imperfections and then let go. Are you too bossy? Are you too critical of yourself? You're lazy
right? You don't have a lot of friends because your shy? This could go on and on
but the point is is that you need to find out what you aren't so good at
maybe what you don't have
and then let go of it. This is one of the most key steps to accept who you are.
了解并看轻自己的短处。你是不是很专横？是不是对自己要求很严格？或者很懒，很害羞，所以没有很多朋友？你可以数出很多，但是你要做的是不要过度在意自己的短处。
honest with yourself. This is one of the hardest things for many of us to do. In many of todays societies that focus on the individual
we are encouraged to strive for success
and often we look for praise as the acknowledgment of that success. We take any criticism as a negative thing
so we shy away from seeing anything about ourselves that elicits that reaction.
诚实面对自己。这是正确认识自己中最艰难的部分。现在的社会竞争激烈，每个人都渴望被肯定，都希望成功。所以我们常常不敢面对自己所谓的弱势。
4 Remember that you can't fix it until you can admit there is a problem.
记住只有你正视自己的毛病，才可能更正。
5 Recognize ineffective coping mechanisms. If you are experiencing any of the feelings described in the introduction
odds are that what you are doing to cope with the problems in life are not working. These things may have worked in the past
and are so ingrained that you don't even realize you do them.
万事不要抱着应付的态度。消极应付的态度一旦根深蒂固，很多时候你甚至不清楚自己在做什么。
6 Replace the old methods you used to deal with situations and problems with ones that will deliver or elicit positive responses and solutions. Changing old behaviors can be just as difficult as recognizing them because it takes time and determination to replace old habits and behaviors
but the payoff is worth it.
改变旧习是很繁琐的，需要坚定的决心和长久的努力，但是坚持下来，你会得到绝对的报酬。
7 Make a short list. Once you have accepted yourself
with all your imperfections
you can change some things about yourself. Write out a list about what you want to achieve
what you can achieve
and how you will achieve it. Although
understand that no one is perfect
and sometimes you just can't change who you are.
列一个小单子。当你已经接受自己的不足后，可以想想哪些你想做的，你可以做的，记住没有人是完美的，有些事也是天生的。
8 Don't try to alter several things at once
this is a recipe for failure. Once you have your list
prioritize it. Decide what you need to work on in order of importance. Often changing one thing will cause other things to fall in line
like knocking over dominoes.
不要急于一时，功亏一篑。当你定好自己想做的事情后，分清主次，一件事的成功可以引起其他的相应事情的成功。
9 Avoid the mon "Do-overs" It's your life and your reality. What happened in the past
happened in the past. You just can't change history. So avoid doing it over again because you feel like it's "in your fort zone" and "you've been through it once
why not one more time?" type of excuse.
不要重蹈覆辙。你的生活是属于你自己的。发生的就是发生了，你无法改变历史。不要重蹈覆辙。
10 Learn that life is the way it is. You can only make it hard if your attitudes about life are pointed that way. You can't change who you really are either. Just be the best you can be
and live life with pride.
顺其自然。生活的道路某种程度上有自己的定义，你无法改变你的秉性，你要做的只是做最好的自己。