一个有原则的人 10步成为一个有原则的人

10步成为一个有原则的人  

re out what you want to do
(eg. Audition for the school play)and what people's reactions to it will be. If it's a reaction you don't agree with
or is trying to get you to not do whatever you want to do
that isn't right.
弄清楚自己正在做的事情，并预测一下人们可能会有怎样的反应。如果结果不是你想要的，或者人们都不支持你这样做，那么你确实可能错了。
k "Why do I care so much about what this person thinks of me?" If you want to do something
you should do it!!
不要管别人对自己的看法，关注事情本身，想想如何让事情做好。
3. Whatever reason you care about what they think with you
turn it off. It should be as easy as that. If you are experiencing some difficulty
or it isn't as easy as I think
think of all the reasons why you shouldn't care what they think. (eg... they don't really even know you
if they don't like something about you
they're just going to have to deal with it or they're not really your friends
this is who you are
you like being funny or smart or whatever characteristics you have
etc...)
无论你是出于什么样的原因，在乎别人的看法，都是没有必要的。你可以告诉自己：他们并不真正那么了解你，如果他们真的不喜欢你这样，那么可以试着去克服，否则他们就不算是真正的朋友。
4. Know that if that hasn't worked
or you would like to put your stoicism to the test
just go out and try doing whatever you want to do. This is the best solution
and I know it's hard
but this is what life is about
isn't it? Doing the things you love? If you won't do it now
when will you? It's time to stop being afraid and show people who you are!! Stop letting life pass you by doing nothing!
出去散心。如果以上方法均不可以，那么走出去
做一件让自己开心的事，做自己想做的事。
5. Dress how you want
nobody should tell you how to do that. Unless you are planning on wearing yellow tights and underwear on top with no shirt.
按自己的喜好穿衣服。没人比你更清楚你自己适合什么样的风格。
6. Listen to whatever music you want. Music is a big label with young people these days
and if you listen to what you want
then who cares? Music is music.
听自己喜欢听的歌。没人可以管你的音乐喜好，音乐就是用来听的。
7. Be happy
knowing you are more confident in yourself
and free to do whatever else it is you like doing
without being trapped in the cage called "peer pressure".
保持快乐。相信自己，做自己想做的事，不要被世俗所羁绊。

people can think what they want. People who think in a judging way don't just judge one person
they probably judge everyone in some way. It's not your problem if someone judges you. It's theirs.
如果别人不赞同你，那是别人的问题，而不是你的问题。他们指责你，也会指责别人。

remember
that you are not the only one that might be afraid of what others think of you. There are loads of people
who mostly think about themselves
and 't care about you.
同时，所有的人都在乎别人对自己的看法。那些不赞同你的人，总是想着自己，而没有切实从你的角度出发。
10. If people try to put you down
ignore them. Make ments in your mind to yourself to perk you up. Don't look like you notice them
either
or they'll know you're afraid.
忽略那些让你不快乐的人，他们不值得。激励自己，不要让他们以为你很在乎他们的看法，而认为你很怕他们。